I’m a full time mom, and there are times when it can just get really crazy. I have two sons with ages 6 and 2, and sometimes my two hands aren’t just enough to handle their demands. But it’s not always like that though, there are more sweet and really fun moments with them especially when they are both in a good mood. I am actually happy being just a mom to them at this time because I get to be really hands on with them and I am not missing any milestone in their growing up years, but why then do I find myself being defensive or needing to be one at certain occasions? Maybe it is because of the fact that there are still people who doesn’t recognize the challenges of being a stay at home mom, and at the same time doesn’t really know the value of one.
Being with your kids 24/7 and doing literally everything on your own with no pay, no break, and no day off can take its toll, but still we go on, and keep doing what we do without really complaining because of our love for our kids, and that is simply it. We may be always at home, but we don’t really hold our time because we work around the schedules of our husbands and kids, and perhaps the time left for ourselves is very few like this time that I am making this blog. I only have probably less than two hours before my 2 year old son wakes up from his nap.
And by the way, it is not just the kids we take care of but all the other stuff that involves the home and the family which includes making the budget, paying the bills, planning your kids’ birthday parties and family vacations, and the list can just go on. I can’t really complain though because I love what I do, but sometimes a little appreciation won’t hurt, or maybe even just some consideration would suffice.
Why then am I writing this piece? Maybe it is because sometimes I feel that some people just have certain expectations and I just think that it’s not fair. We all have our own roles to play in this lifetime so I guess, respecting one another’s game is just what should happen. This is my role for now and I simply want to keep enjoying it while I can. After all, they grow up so fast.
Most of us may make it look easy, but really, it is not. Work never seems to be really done, so then in the process we also learn to choose which battles to fight. But no matter how tough each moment can be, at the end of the day, I only have to look at my kids to remind myself that things will always be okay, and that every experience with them are all worth the while.